Episode 17: Menopause and Divorce: Why Women Want Out—and What Changes When Estrogen Is Restored

If you’ve found yourself thinking, “I don’t even know if I want to be married anymore,” you’re not alone—and you’re not imagining it.

In advanced female hormone medicine, we see a pattern that most women have never been taught to recognize: when estrogen declines, a woman can lose her emotional regulation, her patience, her desire for touch, her libido, and even her ability to feel connected to the people she loves. She can feel flat, irritable, anxious, overwhelmed, or completely unlike herself. And in that state, marriages often feel unbearable—sometimes even unsalvageable.

This episode is a direct, clinical conversation about what’s really happening inside women when estrogen is low—and why so many women begin questioning their marriages during perimenopause and menopause. We also discuss what changes when estrogen is fully restored: many women regain joy, softness, emotional capacity, and desire for intimacy. Some marriages heal and blossom. Others end—but with clarity, confidence, and strength rather than fear and chaos.

We also go where most conversations refuse to go: the role of libido loss and sexual repulsion in marriage breakdown, the widespread misdiagnosis of estrogen-deficient women as mentally ill, and the way psychotropic medications can further suppress desire and emotional connection. And yes—this episode includes a direct message to men about what’s happening to their wives, and why both partners’ hormone health matters.

If you are questioning your marriage, do not make life-altering decisions while you’re hormonally depleted. Get resourced first—then decide.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why estrogen deficiency can change a woman’s mood, behavior, relational capacity, and bring her back to life

• Why many women feel emotionally disconnected and “not like themselves” during perimenopause and menopause

• The hidden marriage impact of libido loss, touch aversion, and sexual repulsion

• Why estrogen-deficient women are often misdiagnosed with mental illness

• How psychotropic medications can worsen libido and emotional bonding

• What changes—sometimes quickly—when estrogen is fully restored

• Why estrogen restoration restores clarity (and why that can change a marriage)

• A direct message to husbands: how to support your wife and why testosterone matters too

This Episode Is For:

This episode is for women who:

• Are questioning their marriage during perimenopause or menopause

• Feel emotionally flat, irritable, disconnected, or a shell of the woman they used to be

• Have lost desire for touch or sex and feel confused or ashamed about it

• Are anxious their husband will leave—and secretly understand why he might

• Are blaming themselves for being “difficult” or “hard to live with”

• Are on HRT but still don’t feel good, emotionally connected, or like themselves

• Have been diagnosed with depression or anxiety and feel numb, not better

• Are afraid of making the wrong life decision but feel unable to stay where they are

• Want clarity before choosing whether to stay or leave

• Suspect their hormones may be influencing their emotions, relationships, and decisions

If you are in midlife, questioning your marriage, and wondering whether this is really what you want—or whether something inside you changed first—this episode was recorded for you.