How Hormones Impact Relationships


Every relationship is impacted by the relationship you have with yourself. Every person who comes into contact with you whether it’s your significant other, child, co-worker, friends, or any person you interact with on a daily basis will experience the person behind how you feel in that moment.

How you see yourself in this world and how you feel about yourself in general strongly impacts your relationship with others.

One of the biggest benefits of working in a hormone clinic as a hormone coach is that I get to interact with every patient that comes in and hear their stories. For nearly 20 years I’ve been listening to women tell me how horrible they feel and how much it’s affecting them and the lives of those around them.

When a potential patient makes a consultation to learn more about the hormone clinic, they meet with me first. It is in this initial 60 min appointment I listen to them tell me why they want to become a patient, I explain the programs we offer, and if I feel they are a good candidate based on certain clinical criteria, I get them started on their hormone balancing journey.

In this appointment, women are very open and vulnerable. They talk about their depression and how hard it is to stay out of bed. They tell me about the general anxiety that affects every moment of their day. They talk about how much they don’t like themselves and the time they spend self-loathing and feeling perpetual self-hatred. They tell me how they can’t sleep and can’t remember the last time they woke up feeling rested with energy. They tell me about the negative ruminating thoughts that they have to continuously fight off. They talk about their irrational behavior and anger outbursts. They also talk about their bitterness and resentment toward those they perceive are living a better life. They talk about their mood swings and how they can’t depend on their moods from one day to the next. They tell me how they don’t like being touched, not even by their own children or spouse. They talk about their self-isolation and emotional detachment and how it makes them feel. They express disdain for themselves because the thought of having sex with their own husband is repulsive to them. They feel like their dreams will never come to fruition and what a disappointment life has been for them. They feel so much despair that it's hard not to feel the pain when they speak.

As women are expressing how poorly they feel, I have their lab work sitting in front of me and see clearly what ranges those labs fall. And what I have come to see early on was that the worse a woman feels, the lower her estrogen is.

Another part of my job is coaching women taking hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Getting hormones balanced with advanced HRT systems is a tricky process over a period of time that involves optimizing certain female hormones to a particular lab range, as well as, specific dietary and lifestyle changes that support the hormone therapy women take.

The process of getting hormones balanced to the Hormone Sweet Spot is a phasic journey where women will experience both positive and negative indicators as the hormones are “balancing” and dietary and lifestyle changes are being made. I speak to these women along the metamorphosis process and see what goes on in their minds and bodies. Watching women get enough of the right hormones is very rewarding.

The Hormone Sweet Spot is a place of true hormone balance when estrogen and progesterone (and other hormones) fall within a specific lab range that women experience mostly positive indicators. This takes time, and as hormones are getting into the right ranges, negative indicators such as depression, anxiety, and mood swings diminish while positive indicators such as feeling good for no reason, having energy, and losing weight increase. And it keeps getting better and better the more optimal the hormones get.

As I coach women along the hormone balancing process, I can see before me the changes that take place within them. Each time they come in for their follow-up, they talk about how they feel and what they are experiencing. Again, I have their labs sitting in front of me when they talk to me. And what I have come to also see is that the more optimal their estrogen and progesterone are, the better they feel and the better they did overall. They talk about wanting to connect to their husband again and now having regular sex. They talk about the improvement in their relationships with their children and how much they are able to connect with them. They can’t believe they no longer negatively react to things that come their way and have increased coping skills. Many women say they no longer feel the “need” to drink every day. They love the weight they are losing and how much energy they have. They talk about how social they are now and are making future plans with friends and relatives. They discuss what a different person they are now that they have enough of the right hormones.

Women are not used to feeling well most of the time. They have become accustomed to feeling horrible and try to find ways to get through their day whether it's drinking or isolating or some other non-social behavior. Being around others is uncomfortable. When a woman doesn’t like herself or wants to interact with others, she behaves differently than when she has inner strength feeling like she can conquer anything.

The Hormone Sweet Spot is where a woman’s hormones are balanced in a specific range and her clinical indicators are mostly positive. When this happens, a woman’s internal dialog, how she feels about herself, and how she interacts with those around her changes for the better. It changes how she sees herself in this world and therefore how she communicates with those around her.

True hormonal balance changes a woman for the better for everyone.

Reference: ter Horst GJ. Estrogen in the limbic system. Vitam Horm. 2010;82:319-38. 


If you want to know where you stand with your own hormone balance, I encourage you to take the Hormone Balance Test. It will give you a good place to start on your journey to getting your hormones balanced and keeping them balanced.

If you want to learn more, take my course. You will learn things you've never known about hormones and hormone replacement therapy, and what you can do about your own hormone imbalance.

If you want to become a patient to get your hormones balanced to the Hormone Sweet Spot, go to


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